The home page of my website (wendykarasin.com) has a lavender background and the quote: “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi
One of the reasons writing became (and remains) such an important tool in regard to my personal growth, was because in order to feel empowered, I had to return to myself. Through the act of writing, I was better able to process and synchronize my internal and external living environments. Locating harmony did not come easily or naturally to me, and could well be the reason I meditate and do yoga. I was (and am) a sensitive personality type, and perceived injustice made me angry (loud and stormy) or sad (weepy and ineffectual). Either way, not clear thinking. Time and perspective usually offered me the clarity I sought, but that also required patience. In this part of my life (post child rearing, post divorce, not quite yet post empty nest) I have more time, a valuable commodity. And so the question of note becomes: How do I best spend the time I have left to live a satisfying, productive life? The universal question has a personal answer which can change at varying intervals in a lifetime. In some regards, the way I have chosen to live until now, dictates my future – but not fully. There are always twists and turns; life is dynamic, and change is ubiquitous. So what do I choose? I choose to think through the anger/sadness that can take hold of my words and emotions, I choose to eat moderately well and stick with my yoga practice (at whatever level works), I choose to be kinder to myself (and hopefully others), I choose close ties with family and friends, and I choose to continue writing – which offers me both perspective and peace. What do you choose?
I am convinced that anger is more like a gene, like curly hair, that I too have. 🙂
I believe it’s a learned, reactive behavior that becomes habit if not addressed, often arising out of fear for the person we yell at, or frustration toward.
Though there is some truth to that Mediterranean temperament! I think there are softer, more effective, ways to communicate. We can discuss further.