My significant other has invited me to his office Christmas party this Thursday evening and I silently, privately (one would think I was above or beyond this already) freak out about – of all things – what to wear. Why and how this can still be the big deal that it is, fascinates me. It takes me a while – hours, days, depending – to find my center of gravity and understand that whatever I choose to wear, if I wear it well, comfortably, and with confidence, will look fine. But therein lies the rub. Why does my confidence abandon me when I enter certain situations? Regarding clothing. Why do I assume others know better than I? Alright, in this case the fact that they have done it before might be a reason. But the truth remains, only I know what I feel comfortable wearing…and I tend to question myself. A lot.

The word festive threw me. “Wear something festive,” the email stated. At first I thought they meant color (particularly because the email had someone wearing a poinsettia sweater), red or green – which wasn’t going to happen unless I found a red or green garment I liked. I have red shoes but they are open toed and suede. The weather is cold and they didn’t look right with the outfits I tried on anyway. I considered what the other women would wear, and had no interest in following suit. I have long been a follower of my own, at times rebellious, often casual, style and the likelihood of that changing is slim. I considered a dress – too cold, bold colors – too loud, something out of the ordinary – too unfamiliar.

I retreat to basics and my comfort zone. Black. But really nice wool trousers with a wide bottom leg and a thick satin waistband. I bought a soft wool blazer with slanted leather pockets. Trendy, classic, classy. Color will surface in the form of deep lavender nails and matching purple eye shadows. A darker purple in the crease with lighter purple in the center. The look is striking within acceptable limits, punchy, simple yet uncommon – all of which I am more than pleased to sport. I do believe residing in my own skin and sense of style, will feel just right.

Picture. To. Follow.